Sunday, January 5, 2014

My Destination Wedding

My wedding is OVER!  I had an amazing time marrying my best friend with "most" of the people we are closest to there to witness it.  I had a few key people missing, but at the end of the day, we had the wedding we wanted. We paid for the wedding ourselves, with help from some very awesome people.  My husband & I are very lucky to have people in our lives that love us very much.  Our wedding was a group effort for sure!

Having never been to a destination wedding, I was not sure what to expect.  We did our wedding on a tight budget which made it even more difficult.  Many things were being done by us, so we did the best we could.  I was fine cutting certain things out & do doing them on my own. Some of my visions were executed due to other people wanting me to have what I wanted.  I was fine with baking cupcakes myself & making a backdrop for my beach wedding, but my friends had other plans.  Did I mention I have amazing people in my life???

Ceremony Site
I had my heart set on a pergola.  Two of my best friends, a couple, live in Los Angeles where they both work in the "business".  The husband makes props for movies & television shows so he was very excited to help with a few things I wanted.  Unfortunately, shipping from Los Angeles to Virginia Beach was going to cost 3 times what it would cost to even make.  So my friends rented us a pergola for our ceremony space.  I had a back-up plan, but was very happy with our gift.  I will note that when having chairs or an arch delivered to a beach, be sure to have a clear plan of when & more importantly WHERE your delivery will be made.  There was a little miscommunication with the delivery guys & over an hour was wasted by my friends waiting at the ceremony site for the items to be delivered.  Turns out they were 1 mile down the road waiting to follow someone else to the site. In the end, it was just what I wanted.

Cake was not that important to me. I ordered a small cake from the grocery store for us to cut.  I decorated it with these cute little Adirondack chairs & some little fences.  I was very happy with how it turned out. As for the cupcakes, they didn't work out so great.  It blows my mind that people charge so much for cupcakes.  I decided that I could just make my own.  Once again, my loving friends decided that they would have their cousin who lived close, make cupcakes at her bake shop.  She was a professional & I wasn't paying for it, so I was not worried.  When my friend picked up the cupcakes, she was unpleasantly surprised.  My cupcakes looked like a Pinterest FAIL!  My new brother-in-law's girlfriend came to the rescue.  She helped a woman back West with her cupcake business.  She really transformed those cupcakes.  They looked 100% better!

Dinner was something that I wanted to do ourselves.  It saves a lot of money & to be honesty, I would rather have dinner at home than go to a restaurant.  My husband is an amazing cook.  Although he is the maker of a very popular sandwich in Pittsburgh, he is great cooking regular food. My original vision had us doing most of the work the day before the wedding.  I stayed up late & woke up very early to make sure there was little that needed to be done. We did appetizers for cocktail hour.  Quite a few of them came from Pinterest (not all of them were fails, lol).  

Veggies w/Dip Cups
Taco Dip Cups
Mozzarella, Tomato, Basil skewers
Cheese, Pepperoni, Crackers
Olives, Pepperocinis, Pickles

Chicken Marsala
Chicken with Brown Sugar & Garlic sauce
Tortellini with Marinara
Low-Country Boil 
Green Beans

We had an amazing day when it was all over. 
I will be sharing some more of my DIY wedding decor in up coming posts.  

On a side note, Happy New Year!  Here is to 2014 being an amazing year for all!

Wednesday, August 14, 2013

Before you say "I Do" to being a Bridesmaid.....

Being a Bridesmaid is a huge honor.  Your friend is asking you to be part of the most important day of her life, her Wedding Day.  With that honor comes a commitment. A commitment that not everyone is aware of. Sometimes people just don't realize what is expected of them. This is exactly what made me want to write a book about weddings. If you have never been in a wedding, it can be a little overwhelming. But have no fear, this is where I can help!

There are certain duties you will have as a Bridesmaid. The months following up to the wedding will be consumed by trying to agree with the other chosen few. It is extremely important that the maids get along. You ladies will be making decisions, together. Remember to keep the Bride in mind while making these decisions. The MOH, Maid of Honor, will have her hands full just trying to keep you ladies from killing each other. But that is for another day....

As a Bridesmaid, you aren't just agreeing to wear a (hopefully) pretty dress & have VIP treatment at the wedding.  Your friend is asking you to be there for her in her time of need, no matter how big or small the task is. Here are a few things that are expected of you when you agree to be in the elite group of ladies....The BRIDESMAIDS

  • Buying your dress, shoes & undergarments for the big day
  • Throw a Bridal Shower with the other Maids
  • Help the MOH plan the Bachelorette Party
  • Giving the bride a hand putting together favors, programs, centerpieces, etc..
  • Assist with any setting up before the wedding
  • Going to rehearsal the day before the big day
  • Get your hair done, nails done, spray tan....look good, just don't out shine the Bride
  • Be on time!!!

Every Bride is different.  Some will ask more from you, some may ask less.  I will expain the duties of a Bridesmaid in better detail later.  For now, ask yourself if these are things that you are willing to do.  It is better to gracefully turn down the honor of being a Bridesmaid than being a bad Bridesmaid.  

Tuesday, July 23, 2013

My own wedding fail...location

My fiance & I have decided to say our "I Do's" on vacation.  This sounded like a GREAT idea in the beginning, we would have both of our families & a few friends come together for a nice casual beach wedding. Who wouldn't want to go to the beach for a few days, right?  Boy were we wrong...

From day one, I am pretty sure that most of our family members were not seeing it that way.  I suppose we didn't think about everyone else's situations when we made our decision. Was that something we should have done?  Is there ever a good time for a wedding? At this point, it is what it is. 

Beach OR Bust!

We decided to get married South of Virginia Beach, in a cute little beach town called Sandbridge.  We went there 10 years ago & I fell in love with it.  It's the perfect place for OUR dream wedding!

Sandbridge, Virginia